Discover Yourself

Happy New month guys, It's May wow, we are almost approaching half of the year. Can you account today how successful the past 4months have been? What have you achieved so far? Well, for today's relationship blog post; I would be buttressing this love issue as an ongoing debt. It is said that "agape" is a sacrificial, self-giving kind of love but how many of us live in the truth of that word? Do you know some people believe it is impossible to love that way as it is only meant for our Lord and savior? But it's possible if you keep putting it to work with everyone around you. It's a discipline and a training you give yourself and that's what brings about that spark in the marriage.. In marriage, agape means that spouses rather than overlook each other's faults and weaknesses, allow love overcome each other's shortcomings and not allow them to become points of strife and conflict. Love without reason means loving regardless of the likeablene...

It would be interesting to note that forced submission is not true submission; it is subjugation. Submission is always freely chosen and willingly given. Even though submission is commanded for the wife, her compliance is voluntary. As far as her husband is fulfilling his responsibility and seeking to love her with the same kind of sacrificial, self-giving love with which Christ loved the church, a wife has the responsibility to submit to him, "in everything". Her failure to be in submission to her husband's headship is sin. In other words, a wife's submission to a godly husband is not a demeaning or demoralizing act. Submission doesn't mean humiliation or abject subjection of a wife's personality and will to the whim and will of her husband. Submission also means that a wife acknowledges her husband's headship as spiritual leader and guide for the family. It has nothing whatsoever to do with her denying or suppressing her will, her spirit, ...

Hi guys 😉😎, Do you know that many have limited this above fundamental principle to financial prosperity only? Would it amaze you to know this is the fundamental principle of creation where God and man, male and female are concerned? God gives to man; male gives to female; man receives from God;and female receives from male. Many relationships fail because men do not realize they are to be givers rather than receivers(or takers) where women are concerned and because women do not realize that they are to be receivers rather than givers where men are concerned. In any relationship, when a man fails to give to his woman he malfunctions. Likewise, when a woman cannot receive from her man, or is forced to give, she malfunctions. The male gives, the female receives; the male loves and the female responds. The vast majority of relationship problems would be solved if every man and woman could only learn and apply this simple truth; males are designed to give; well not blows,slaps...

Hello beauties, I look forward to every Wednesday cos of you and me...today's relationship post is kinda a personal one....when i mean personal, it relates to you and you only... How do you feel or react when you are told you really don't love yourself? Chill a bit... How would you feel when you know with proofs that at your age, you haven't discovered yourself enough to come to terms with loving you for you?.. That's what I am here to discuss knowing growth is progressive..and you can be better at loving you cos you possibly can't love someone else as much as you treat yourself. Do you know the decisions and choices you make in life are evidences of how truly you love yourself in all of its aspects? In life you live literally based on choices... You can choose to sleep 24hrs or choose something else to do with time and time is your life in motion... Do you really know what is life?? That life is  in your hands to live...Most times we talk about relationshi...

Labels like "husband","wife", "mother", "father", "sister", "brother", "friend" imply a close friendship but do you know that is a costly assumption? By the label, most people assume that they really know each other. How deceptive!!! No relationship should be closer, more personal or more intimate than that which exists between a husband and wife. Such intimacy involves not only love but also knowledge. A husband and wife should know each other better than they know anyone else in the world. They know each other's likes and dislikes, their strengths and weaknesses,their good and bad qualities, gifts and talents, their character flaws...infact they ought to know ideally those undesirable traits that they hide from everyone else. That's what the waiting process ought to be..a couple ought to know as much as possible about each other- good and bad before they stand together at the marriage altar. Marriag...

Because communication is an art, it must be deliberately, patiently, and carefully learned over time. Effective face-to-face communication is always holistic in nature, involving all the senses and the full engagement of the body, intellect and mental energy. Communication is an exchange of information (a message) between individuals in such a way as to bring mutual understanding. Every message contains three essential components: content,  tone of voice and non verbal signals like gestures, facial expressions and body language. When all three work in harmony, the probability of mutual understanding is very high. If any element is missing or contrary to the others, the likelihood of successful communication diminishes significantly. In our relationships, human emotions and personalities are involved. The non verbal elements are more significant than verbal. Research has shown that the verbal aspect comprises only 7% of the total message we send or the person receives. Tone o...

Growing up, I got used to the word selfishness in terms of money, allocation of resources, basically anything that involves sharing or that has to do with position. Recently, I got to understand selfishness in the area of relationship.  Are they possibilities you could be selfish in your relationship? How do you solve that even? Is it a norm? Where does selfishness lead us truly to?  I would love to refer us back to one of my previous posts; " The principle of needs in relationship".  https://doxified.blogspot.com.ng/2017/11/the-principle-of-needs-in-your.html?m=1 In that post, I made mention that it is key for each one of us to be able to identify the basic needs of the opposite gender and major on fulfilling it. This because when issues like quarrel, bitterness, frustration, argument,misunderstanding erupt in your relationship...it is simply a question of selfishness.  When you focus on meeting the needs of your partner diligently with or without e...

February is about closing its curtains on us in few days and leaving us to embrace the possibilities wrapped up in the month of March. It's been an exciting year for us all, however... some haven't come to terms with achieving their goals and how possible it is to strike that dart that hits all targets...  For me before the year began, I wrote my goals and faced them doggedly only to find them all achieved by January. I had to rewrite bigger goals and trust God to help me through them. Even in February, I conquered more in the face of difficult and trying times. Point is everyone goes through stuff but that shouldn't discourage you, rather it should be a springboard for you to soar as it was for me this month... I hope you find this article useful as you are being stirred up to remain on course and fight to finish victoriously. **You are your thoughts **You can go as far as you think positively or negatively ** You are made alive or dead by what you think eg ...

This year began with so much expectations especially for the blog and I had something working out but challenges surfaced here and there and I paused to think, are there possibilities that in spite of the daunting seemingly difficult situations you could still come out victoriously? Beloved, it's all about a mindset. If your mind is set on victory, you have and will do all it takes to come out victorious. But if your mind isn't set on possibilities of a bright future, a winning life, you would see yourself taking a step forward and two steps backwards; grumbling through life, wondering why things aren't working out as you planned and feeling frustrated as the days go by. As this was my experience this month, I had my mind set on excellence, productivity, results, success, despite the challenges that surfaced. I decided to go back to this blog while I fix the challenges cos I wasn't going to give up on myself... Why do I share this? You are greatness personif...